Why women don't stop to talk to you.

I was walking in a parking lot the other day when a guy shouted to me “Hey pretty lady, how are you today?” I said “fine thanks” and kept walking. He then shouted “Hey you should come over and introduce yourself!”. I said politely while walking “gotta run, but have a great day!". I think a lot of men feel rejected in this situation. What they may not understand is that as women, we sometimes feel unsure what to do or we feel nervous for our safety. I was in an underground parking lot for one and for two I'm engaged to be married so I had no interest in talking to this stranger, but it's not because he was unattractive or because his approach was totally wrong. I mean, he was holding a puppy and that's gotta count for something right? Seriously though, there are many times as women that we do say something friendly and the guy gets the wrong idea and pursues too heavily or we don't say anything at all and we're often met with verbal abuse, being called a “bitch” or worse. I realize it's not easy to approach a woman. I feel for you guys, I really do. Perhaps a key element here is when a woman clearly isn't interested, most guys keep trying. That can be quite annoying. I was in Spain recently and while walking near a cafe a gentleman walked over to me and in the most polite tone he said "excuse me madam but I wondered if perhaps we could share a coffee?" I said "I'm sorry, I'm flattered but I'm engaged". He said "ok well I wish you a wonderful day". In my opinion, that was the perfect way to approach a woman. It was a public place, he was confident but not pushy and he was a gentleman the entire exchange. It's quite awful when a man is polite and sweet then once he thinks he's being rejected he snaps and becomes mean. So try to remember the next time you shout out to a woman you've never met, she may be in a relationship, she may be nervous, she may not feel safe or she just might be in a hurry. We don't mean to hurt any feelings or be rude (well at least most of us don't). So fellas, please don't get all agro at the woman. There's no need to be insecure. If she doesn't wanna chat, chances are, it's probably not about you at all.

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